Thursday, September 13, 2007

Maybe boppies aren't such a bad thing after all...

The wierdest thing happened today after I picked Hailey up for daycare. I went to Walgreen's to pick up my prescription. I had parked the car before I realized what I was doing, but then decided the drive through takes too long anyways. So I walk up to the prescription counter holding Hailey(who is covered in dirt by the way--she loves digging in dirt, what can I say--and she has her boppy(pacifier)in her mouth as always) and stand behind a girl that's getting her prescription. Her little boy is sitting in the cart, a boppy in his mouth as well. So of course Hailey starts staring him down like "what in the world are you doing with my boppy in your mouth??" and this little boy just reaches out and tries to grab hers like it's his. We kind of laughed and his mom made the comment that Hailey still has the "baby" one (the green softer one) Her son had the one for older babies that's blue and harder. I told her she just won't use the harder ones and she said her son wouldn't for the longest time either. So the little boy waves at Hailey and they head off to the front of the store to leave. I get my prescription and make my way to the front of the store and end up meeting up with her again. I asked her how old her son is--20 months, 3 months older than Hailey--and we talk a bit. We made our way outside, but we stood there talking outside for at least 15 to 20 minutes! It turns out she just moved into town not too long ago and has no mommy friends here. We have quite a bit in common, it's odd...her boyfriend went back to school as well, but he takes night classes so he can still work full time so she's able to stay home with their son. She was a very nice person, very put together and so easy to talk to. We talked about everything, jobs, having more kids, what parts of town we live in etc. Even her son and Hailey seemed to get along, they were handing stuff back and forth to each other the whole time. While we were talking I noticed she'd say something about letting me go but then we'd start talking again...I could tell she didn't really want to just say bye and leave it at that, and honestly I didn't either. I was thinking wow here we bumped into each other so randomly and we're talking like we've known each other forever and we've got so much in common and have kids about the same age...it would be such a shame to just leave it at that and never see each other again. Finally I got up the nerve and just said "So I've never done this before, but would you want to exchange numbers and maybe get together sometime and let the kids play?" She got all excited and said "Yea that'd be great!" and she even started talking about taking them to this local play place that's newer in town and actually right by my house. How cool is that? I've been thinking lately how I really wish I had some mommy friends...I mean I have my friend S but she's so busy with her family I rarely ever see her. It would be so neat to have somebody with a kid about Hailey's age that I could just hang out and talk with. But I have no way of meeting people. Around here you generally don't just meet someone at the park or play area in the mall. Even going to church you don't meet people here...they're all so huge, people just keep to themselves and their little groups. So anyway we'll see what happens. I'm not sure if I should call her in a couple days, or wait to see if she calls me...but what if she's waiting to see if I'll call her so she never calls me? Jeez this is oddly like dating isn't it? Who knew making friends would be so difficult as an adult...there's an email address on the card she gave me, maybe I should just try to email her? Any advice from anybody??? I'm so excited!!

2 comments:

Kayce said...

I'm excited for you, and a bit jealous. I agree that it's hard to meet other moms. I'm proud of you for jumping at the opportunity, and I hope plans for a playdate materialize soon. I wish I had some advice for you, but I'm still waiting to meet my perfect mommy friend myself. You'll have to let us know how it goes.

Ashley said...

Just call her. I've met a lot of people that way, just got to bite the bullet. Because honestly? She feels the EXACT same way you do. Probably really lonely and desperate for friends. I know when people reach out to me it makes me feel really good. I've made an effort with lots of people, and some turn out to be friends and some don't, but what matters is that you did it. Things happen for weird reasons, and maybe meeting her was just one of those things that was supposed to happen. And if you feel weird, maybe meet up somewhere neutral until you feel comfortable enough to have her over. good luck!