Monday, September 22, 2008

At wits end

Hailey's going through another one of her phases. She got sick last Wednesday morning, throwing up all over our bed (and my husband's head, ew) at 4:00 in the morning. She's been having tummy issues for a couple weeks now, alternating constipation with diarrhea, and her tummy hurts every single time she eats. I'm hoping that all this going on at once is the cause of this latest phase and that it will pass soon. She won't let me change her diaper. Saturday night she had a BIG poop and refused to let me change her diaper. It took the poop starting to leak out of her diaper and down her leg for her to let me change it! Bathtime and bedtime are also huge struggles all of a sudden. She used to not mind baths but now she cries and cries. Bedtime is especially hard...she thinks of every excuse she can to not go to sleep. The girl has developed dark circles this week, and she's only 2! I just don't know what to do. And potty training? Forget it! She pees all day at the sitter's in the potty but not at home anymore, and she never poops in the potty. I don't know what the deal is. And she still has her Soothie pacifiers! She's so attached to them, they're her comfort object. I'm so used to it, it doesn't bother me to see her walking around with one...but I know other people probably look at her and think "Oh my, isn't she too old for that?!" on the rare occassion that I let her take it out in public. I know when it's worth the fight and when to give up. My mom tried to get her to leave it in the car yesterday while we went in the hardware store. She started a fit so I said just leave it. It wasn't worth the effort. Then we went in the pet store to buy fish for her new 5 gallon fish tank. I told her she had to leave it in the car because if she dropped it on the floor it would get animal poop on it. She promptly popped it out of her mouth and threw it in her car seat. Didn't want animal poop on her dear pacifier! SIGH

Is this just part of being 2?? What am I supposed to do? I'm tough but she just doesn't listen. She's way too stinking old for her britches. She's 2.5 going on 15. I talk to her sweetly, teach her to be polite, teach her to control her emotions, but she still back talks and sasses sometimes. She can be so incredibly sweet and cute but other times WHOA watch out! I'm getting really scared for her teen years!!! And honestly, I'm really starting to hope I have a little boy next!

It's a good thing she's so stinking cute, or I think I'd be gray haired and insane by now...


Joanna said...

I am racking my brain on advice to give here, and I am coming up short.

The paci issue. I wouldn't worry about it, really. There are kids that are far older that walk around in the store with them. If the poop worked, go with it out in public. Tell her that if she takes it in she might drop it where peoples dirty shoes have been, something along those lines. She will let go of it when she is ready. Or, you could try and let her pick out something else and tell her that she will have "the object" and not the paci anymore.

The terrible two's...Ahh we are coming out of those, but I tell ya, at least your going through them now, when she is two. Kelsie really wasn't that bad, and so now we are making up for it. Just know that since it's bad now, it will get better. We have the terrible 3's upon us.

Potty training, no idea. Just keep at it. That's really the only advice I can give. If she's doing it at the sitter's clearly she's ready. Don't give up at home with taking her potty ever so often...It will only back fire.


bluedaisy said...

I found your blog thru a series of blog connections. Don't know if this will make you feel better or not BUT I think your stuggles are just part of the 2 year old thing. I have two boys, one of whom is 2 and I think he is just as prone to tantrum/mood-swing/my- way-or-the-highway type of behavior. I wish I had some great advice but at this point, we are just working thru things as best we can so I just wanted to empathize :)