Tuesday, June 3, 2008


My sister in law messages me on Facebook every workday. Today she messaged me asking what I thought her baby was going to be because she's taking guesses. I told her I honestly don't know one way or the other because she's had two boys so it could be another boy but that I've had friends go in the same pattern as her and finally have their girl the last time around. She told me she really really wants a little girl. We got to messaging back and forth and I told her I'm not sure if I really want to have anymore kids (she's always trying to get me to get pregnant like NOW) because I am so obsessed and in love with Hailey that I don't know that I want another one...I don't see how I could love another one as much as I do her and I sort of feel like it wouldn't be fair to her to spend some of "her" time on another baby/kid. I also made the comment that I'm sort of afraid to have another one because I don't want a boy and what if it's a boy? I told her I love other people's little boys, they're so cute and everything and that I love her boys and love taking care of them and whatnot. But I just don't want one of my own. She had made the comment before that she loves her boys because she sees so much of her husband (my husband's brother) in them but that she'd like a girl too. So anyway I told her that whole thing about how I didn't want a boy and whatnot. Her response? "I see what you're saying. I mean, I like Hailey and all, but she's just not for me..."


WTF? Thanks a bunch for telling me that my kid "just isn't for you." She went on to explain with an explanation that made no sense. She still ended up looking like an ass. This really really hurt my feelings. No one wants to be told that someone doesn't love your kid, ESPECIALLY family. And what's more, she went on to say that she's being pressured to have a little girl by my mother in law because my mother in law wants to finally be able to buy girly things (she had 3 boys)...Um, HELLO, does my mother in law not realize she already has a granddaughter that she could spoil with girly things???? Hailey loves her and my husband's mom acts like she's just "okay." She NEVER asks to keep her overnight or even watch her for a couple hours so she can play with her. And now apparently she's trying to replace her altogether, hoping my sister in law has a little girl. I'm so fed up with his family. I'm fed up with them not caring about Hailey. They are obsessed with my brother and sister in law's kids but don't care one way or the other about Hailey. She loves them to pieces, it breaks my heart that they treat her like this. How can grown adults be so immature and rude? I'm just really upset by all of this...by the comment my sister in law made, and finding out that my mother in law wants my sister in law to have a girl so she can "finally" have a little girl to spoil... :( My heart just breaks for Hailey. She doesn't understand why they act that way. I don't even know what to say.

1 comment:

Amy said...

My MIL doesn't act like a grandma should with my daughter either. She is her first grandchild, too. It is so hard to see this happen to your child and sad to not be able to do anything about it.