As I've gotten older I've often thought they could make a reality show w/ my life. Seriously, it's like crazy crap just finds me. There really is never a dull moment in my life. Right now of course there's the maybe baby issue, which I still have not found out an answer to. Yesterday Hailey got an explosive case of diaper rash that left her begging for help to anyone who'd listen, the poor thing. My mom apparently clogged up my kitchen sink with spaghetti noodles...I spent a good half hour picking noodles, plastic pieces from Lord knows what and wookies out of my drain with my tweezers (ew--I ran them through the dishwasher, ok?). Which led to a huge cleaning frenzy during which I scrubbed my sink til it was sparkly and like new, threw away a bunch of old cleaning products and organized the cabinet under my kitchen sink, threw away old baby bottles (because they contain BPA) and misc. candy and odds and ends, emptied and reloaded the dishwasher, cleared everything out of our silverware drawer and completely cleaned and disinfected it (since D had spilled something in it and not told me--it was crusty and GROSS), did 3 loads of laundry and even cleared out Hailey's PJ drawer (and realized she's only got 3 pairs of Spring/Summer pjs that fit her). What a night.
My grandma called and wanted to know if she went to my dad's Saturday if I'd go over and let her see Hailey, which ticked me off. She can never come to my house for some reason. Hell she hasn't seen Hailey since my sister's wedding in December. I told her Hailey's little friend turns 2 that day and we already told her we'd go to her party at 1:00 that day. My grandma wanted us to go to my dad's around 10! Hailey isn't even up by then some weekends! She usually wakes up at like 9 or 10! I'm proud of myself for standing my ground and telling my grandma this, and telling her 11 is the earliest we can be over there. I'm pissed. If I don't bend to her needs and give in and go over there I'll be on her shit list forever, and God knows she's psycho and would spread all kinds of crap about me...just like the time she picked a fight with me before my wedding and not only did she not show up at my wedding, she'd called all her family and told them not to come either. Nice. So, unfortunately, to prevent more trouble for myself I have to get up extra early on Saturday not, get myself ready, wake Hailey up and get her ready and be at my dad's by 11. Then leave there smelling like smoke and ick and go to this party at 1:00 smelling like smoke when I don't even smoke!! I'll also have to wash Hailey's coat and whatever else we take into my dad's. That's why I don't go over there anymore. They don't smoke while we're there but the smell is still HORRIBLE. We always leave reeking.
But all of that dulls in comparison with the bomb my dad laid on me this morning. He called me at work, talking about the usual...how my stepmom is apparently crazy, how he's blamed for everything, how he's so stressed he just wants to end it all. And then he says "I'd tell you a huge secret if I thought I could trust you." ???? WTF. I told him of course he can trust me. He says "You can't tell ANYBODY, not even your sister." I told him fine, he can trust me. I promised.
Apparently I have another brother that none of us ever knew about. He's 16, lives in the same town I do. His mom knew my dad was married so when she found out she was pregnant she quit seeing him and never told him. She dated another man and got married. Then she found out recently my dad's getting divorced and told him what happened, how he's got a son and whatnot. The boy's been going to my dad's and visiting him. Apparently he's got pierced lips, dirty blonde hair, does his schooling over the internet, doesn't smoke, has a girlfriend that's turning 15 soon that's into bellydancing...oh and he likes to play the Wii. That's all I know about him. And I can't tell anybody. So, naturally, I'm telling all of you. Cause God who could keep a secret like that in? None of you know my family, so I didn't really lie to my dad.
It's really weird, he's been in this world, in this same town, since I was a little girl...I would've been in 3rd grade when he was born. My little brother was born when I was in 6th grade. I just can't imagine this boy has been here, in the same town, and I never knew about him. Honestly, I'm not really shocked. That's just the kind of stuff that happens in my life, unfortunately. But it's still just really weird. I want to meet him, at least see what he's like. My dad warned me that I do have to remember he's just a teenager. I just wonder what the rest of my family's going to think when they find out. I'm sure my sister will be pissed and refuse to talk to my dad anymore...my little brother, I don't know...he's into the terrible teens himself right now at 13 (how do they go from sweet little kids to saying "screw you!" in a matter of months??) so he may be pissed or he may be okay with it, who knows.
So...craziness...
Just another day in my life...
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You should seriously write the story of your life as a novel. I bet it would be a bestseller. I mean, I thought the half-brother-coming-out-of-nowhere trick only happened to people on weird talk shows and all. That's crazy!
LOL! I am so sorry but your life would make a great lifetime movie. I hope you get a chance to meet your brother and that he is a stand up guy:)
Wow. That's insane about having a brother.
About your grandma? Can I just say SCREW HER. Okay, maybe that's harsh but honestly, after what she put you through during your wedding? That's so completely wrong and unacceptable, I think she should be catering TO you, not making you cater to HER. If she wants to see Hailey, make her come to your house. Hailey won't remember this stage, so she won't be losing out, instead it'll be your grandma losing out because she's the one that screwed up. Do what YOU want to do, not what someone else wants you to. She can then proceed to choose how to continue the relationship and hopefully realize that you're serious. That way you can still get up at a normal time, and go to the party being less stressed and not smelling like smoke. I don't intend for that to come off mean, imagine me saying it in the most gentle voice possible! Besides, who am I to give advice? It's always easier to fix other people, rather than yourself. What I've learned though is that you need to focus on what's most important to YOU, which I assume is Hailey and hubby. You'll never get this time back, so make the most of it. Don't worry about what other people think. Okay, I'm done with my rant. Now why don't you tell me how to fix my life!!
Wow, can't believe you had a half brother in the same town and not know it. I don't know the town your in, but I bet you have seen each other before and never knew it. That's just wild!
Your grandma, seriously, I would not even take Hailey over. We have problems with the in laws and I refuse to take my kids over to any of their houses. If they want to see the girls they can come here! If they don't like it tough! I just don't feel like I need to go out of my way just so they can see the kids, when we are the ones with kids, not them. Which makes it easier for them to come here. Good Luck!
Wow, this is just amazing...but in a kind of neat way?
As for your Grandmother, I can't offer too much advice as I can't take it well with my family but I'm glad you stood your ground!
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